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A very nice letter from a decent friend....
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Sep 19, 2010 2:06 am
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Some time back I had posted a blog reproducing an unwanted solicitation for sexual favors from some element who considers a female as a commodity which can be bought as if we buy are provisions and vegetables..
Just place an order and supplies from Reliance Fresh, Big Bazaar, Pantaloons or from your neighborhood store would be at your door step even before you finish placing your orders!!
The deprivations of the gutter level man was very well palpable as he was audacious enough to quote different rates for different types of juicy and fleshy relationships and he even followed up thorough another mail which was of course dealt with properly!
As you all know the blog raised a hue ad cry with a very large number of readers commenting on the same mostly condemning and some advising me to ignore such things and some howsoever miniscule they may be in numbers supporting the sleaze saying IFF is meant for such stuff!!
But today I am reproducing a mail which I received a few days back in my IFF in-box which is really very nice, delicate and decent to the core and I feel by posting such a mail I will be atoning (!!??!)for my posting the earlier salacious solicitation which was promptly banned by IFF!!
And by the way I am sorry to say that even I have not been able to send a reply to the sender of this gem of a letter as I am handicapped being a standard member who can only respond to a very limited number of mails!
Here it goes...
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Thanks for your message. I read some of your blogs. They are absolutely fantastic and you are a truly imaginative person, a dreamer, a thinker, a visualiser, an excellent writer. Keep it up and may be, compile your thoughts in the form of a book to publish.
I will be reading your blogs from time to time, but I still believe in emailing. So best of luck to you.
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Woman has Man in it;
Mrs. has Mr . in it;
Female has Male in it;
She has He in it;
Madam has Adam in it;
Okay, Okay, it all makes sense now...
I never looked at it this way before:
Ever notice how all of women's problems start withMEN?
MENtal illness
MENstrual cramps
MENtal breakdown
MENopause
GUY necologist
AND .
When we have REAL trouble, it's aHISterectomy.
Send this to all the women you know to brighten their day.
Send this to all the men just to annoy them ......
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Remember You Don't Stop Laughing Because You Grow Old,
You Grow Old Because You Stop Laughing
Arun
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Dream coming true...or will it remain an illusion!!
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Sep 17, 2010 8:55 pm
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They say in life nothing comes a fraction of a second before it is due and for me the wait was agonising ,even killing...
After completing my B.Arch. degree from NIT, Raipur I said goodbye to my friends and the faculties and to my uncle , aunt and their loving family at Bhilai who had not given me to realise that I was an outsider and who all had very high hopes on me for going ahead in life and with the train blowing its final whistle and the guard waving his green flag and the entire family of my uncle in tears to see me off I also could not help crying like a child! It was an emotional scene one can only experience and hard to describe!
But once back in the comforts of my home in Kolkata I started feeling a vacuum with no leads coming my way!! Reading books, playing badminton at the expansive Tolly Club where the dad is a life member and which like a second home to me took some time off my idle mind but still the bigger question was still hunting me!
Whether my score of 1420 in GRE was good enough to land me at the door step of a Canadian/USA university and as a fall back option I had SPA, I.P.Estae , New Delhi, a couple of reputed Mumbai Colleges and of course not to forget a seat in a Bangalorean Institute which I gather are amongst the best in India.
The wait was really endless and was beginning to tell on my nerves, I was always a sparse eater and it was getting sparser day by day with competitive badminton and western dance lessons sapping me of my energy like a demon sucking out blood form its hapless victim! And still I was out of ideas how to ignore the pressures and to go about as if nothing has happened!During such a turbulent phase one of my friends suggested why I was not joining IFF which offers a neat scope for blogging away my exasperation and frustration and making some decent friends in the process! And so here am I sharing m,y thoughts and experiences with all of you!
Oh yes, I have strayed so much from my original intention of announcing from my roof top that ..Oh Yes,Simon Fraser University of Canada has accepted my 'Statement of Purpose' and has offered me admission in to their Masters Program in Urban Designing with a Scholarship ,a full waiver of tuition fees.. such nice gestures our Indian Universities/Institutes would do well to emulate to attract talent! And if everything works out I shall be setting sails in about a couple of month or rather flying in to the unknown territory!
But friends there is a catch..I am caught between the devil and the deep sea..
The Mom is inconsolable ever since the final go ahead came through from the Canadian University and she is insistent that I get admitted in to any of our top Institutes in India and that a fragile figure like mine may not withstand the hostile climatic conditions in Canada and there would be no Mom or Mami( Bhilai- wali) to see that I feed properly!!And she has many a misgivings like a single girl staying alone in a foreign land and things like that!
But amidst all this melodrama and tears galore I am now faced with the task of going ahead with my visa interview at the Canadian Embassy which I hear is very tough and I also have to enlist my father's unflinching support for getting a Solvency Certificate from our neighbourhood Bank which again is a tough job as Indian bankers are very finicky in almost everything they do!
Now I expect all the good wishes from all of my friends here with whom I have built up a rapprochement hard to find else where within a very short span of time!!
Now its time for me to go for a dance practice ( I only know some western steps and not a trained danseuse!)for a performance in our favourite Tolly Club some time this month. And then off I am for my after noon game of badminton and back to basics once again!!
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From homely comforts to unknown territory..
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Sep 15, 2010 8:14 pm
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Last night I stumbled across a mail from a Canadian University whom I had applied for seeking enrollment in to their Masters Program in Urban Designing. The brief announcement informed me that I was provisionally selected for their course and that as a final hurdle I was asked to send them a 'Statement of Purpose' which should briefly outline my outlook at my career after completing the course and coming out of their hallowed precincts!
Funny..isn't it? And the reply had to be submitted within 72 hours of opening the mail..Some deadline that!
I had to arrange for a rag tag ensemble and I have helped myself liberally from some quality blogs here for some of the ideas and to those bloggers I owe my sincere gratitude and then I had to storm my gray cells to deliver a readable material some what resembling a Statement of Purpose!Of course with my CV which boasts of a National Talent Scholarship at 10th level in School and a +90% score all through there after till my B.Arch. degree I do not think there should much of a problem for me to get the go ahead for the course. However, ignoring a blessing is like incurring a curse(The Alchemist-Paulo Coelho) and one can't be too sure of things these days.I am sharing it with my friends here with requests to suggest for its improvement and for their liberal comments on the same which will all be responded to with humility!
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Statement of Purpose.
As I start out in pursuit of the golden goals in my life I stand and stare for a moment and mutter under the breath… what is my aim of life and where do I intend to be ten years hence, 15 years and twenty years down the line!
I know to achieve anything in life one has to have set goals and sincerity of purpose as the guiding principles. One has to aim high, stay cool, reflect before acting, consider every minute as precious possessions of life, remain up to date and push real hard to achieve the goals!
To be successful I have certain cut out axioms which keep me on track no matter what! Before starting a new job one has to examine all its pros and cons and once started the work must proceed on full steam and fear of failure should not be allowed to cross the path!
The fragrance of a flower spreads only in the direction of the wind whereas the goodness of a person spreads in all directions. I have learned that one need not remember things if one is telling the truth but if one chooses to tell a lie he has to remember the lie forever and its carrying cost is really very high!
Education being the Brand of a person and knowledge being his/her investment I will persevere to pursue quality education and in depth knowledge in all stages of my life! Work hard and party hard are not hollow words to be forgotten in a hurry and I must strive to fulfill the corporate objectives of my employers who know what is best for the institution I go on to serve!
Character and moral are going to be my constant companion in whatever sphere I am and good moral values and refined humanistic behavior are going to set the trend for me in my work life. Prejudiced views are to be shunned as they tend to be onerous liabilities in the long run where as patience and creative ideas are going to do the tricks for me in seemingly insurmountable situations.
I remember the famous saying which has been the mantra of my life and which makes me a determined fighter in circumstances of utmost despair, which goes as under…
“Often the goal is nearer than
it seems to a faint and faltering man,
often the struggler has given up
when he might have captured the victor's cup
And he learned too late, when the
night slipped down,
how close he was to the golden crown.”
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I Love You......!!
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Sep 13, 2010 7:29 pm
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I love you because you say that I provide a level head when the going is all grime!
I love you because you tell that I am brutal about your bad decisions whereas your friends play safe.
I love you because when you have a string of bad luck I still cling on to you and assure that all is well and you take my words for it!
I love you because when I call you a baby you blush!
I love you because I connect nicely with all your dear and near ones which you find difficult and you appreciate my gesture a lot!
I love you because if I relate nicely with people who can help you progress in your career you go gaga and don't ever question my wisdom!
I love you because in all those wintry nights when the sky is blowing icy breaths I ask you to get cozy in your mink blanket that you purchased for me and was eager to gift deliver it but now its my gift to you and you obey me like kid!
I love you even though you are yet to establish in life and not so sure of a life of luxury which I am accustomed to and you curse yourself for one day bringing me penury as a marital gift!!
I love you for all you stand for and I will keep on loving you till there is life on earth and till the sun and the moon shine on our life full of love!!
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My heart and me.... a lonely pair on the footpath of life!
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Sep 12, 2010 12:23 am
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As I walk past the serene path of life
beyond its lanes and by-lanes..
the labyrinthine thoroughfares crisscrossing my every thought..
there appears a lonely pair...
my heart and me embodied as my soul..intertwined in to a one whole lot!
As the street lights flicker away in the pitch dark night of life and the thoughts of loneliness weighs down my soul, the heart reels under the load of its own agonizing cry..
The long separation from the soul mate who is so far away colours my judgment and the precipice of the fear of loss with its cliff hanger does not help matters either!
Love is the only torch I have with me in my heart and it really does help in finding my way back to my home and hearth with peace and tranquility writ large all over...
But these days with doubts clouding my heart and all its tender nerves I am less certain of a resurrection..
And I am left in the darkness of life to fend for myself..
with the love of my life languishing in a far away land ..
with no sign of an early reunion ..
and the soul forcing the heart ...
to see reality at the end of the long tunnel..
that I am just going to enter!!
They say there is light at the end of the tunnel..
but my soul is a tough customer
and is a bitter cool customer to boot!!
So here am I , praying for all the courage in the world and all the faith in the universe to sail me through the tempestuous seas to across my love..who is my soul mate and my life bundled in to an inseparable knot!!
Hope against hope that my winding paths are going to
straighten out at the very long last!!a
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I am still learning....Life is like that!!
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Sep 10, 2010 9:24 pm
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I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we sings "Silent Night".
Age 5
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to sit on our rickety sofa either.
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country side which I used to visit with my dad frequently, they stop what they are doing and wave back... but the city folks are a nonchalant lot!
Age 9
I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly in love with my neighbourhood gawky guy who does not have the courage to look up to a gal straight in her eyes but steals a side-wise glance never the less.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than words of advice and that love is the honey of the flower of life!
Age 17
I have learned that beauty alone is not sufficient to win the world ..you have also to have grace, charm and intelligence to pull it out !
Age 20
For the first time i have learned that guys are guys and gals can never be like guys as mom has stopped my visit to the discotheque whereas my brother has no such restrictions on him.
Age 22
I have learned that being a gal is like being a sitting duck to be hunted out and shot at in the jungle of life for your tasty flesh!!
And I am still learning....!!!
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Friendship.. A heavenly feeling!!
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Sep 8, 2010 2:29 am
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A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is
over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship
until after you've had a fight.
A simple friend hates it when you call
after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!
A simple friend is mostly interested in your beauty and charm
A real friend is one who makes you feel beautiful and charming..(even if you are not)
A simple friend is there till you are hale and hearty..
A real friend is there if you are not hale and hearty..
A simple friend is more interested for your worldly possessions..
A real friend is more interested in your out of the world possessions..(that is spirituality)
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And I go to sleep with peace in heart !!!
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Sep 6, 2010 6:36 am
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I am in love ..
And it has not helped that my love has sent me a message saying..
it was raining in Seattle and that I was appearing in his dreams like an apparition..untouchable but filling his every moment with the touch of love..
That the climate has sent his senses to exile and that I was at the centre of all his actions, his dreams and his existence..
And here my mind is in a swirl..
My heart is brimming with the freshest smell of trust..
My mind is smiling as is the colorful marigold in our kitchen garden ..
My body is in upheavals with every fibre singing the most alluring song....
My ethereal existence is in doldrums for there is no limit to its day dreaming ...
My entire dreams are centred around the unreal feeling of giving..
and giving and giving without expecting any returns in its turn..
Whether this is love or any other thing I am uncertain but the thought of him is sufficient to raise goose pimples all over me..
And the sheer feel of him in my dream makes my sleep the most enjoyable ....
I just think of him as night falls and sleep overtakes me and my soul deserts me and flies away to the guy I love without me having any control over my imagination....
And I go to sleep peacefully every night.....
Is it really LOVE..!!
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An Evening around Eden Gardens..
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Sep 5, 2010 12:20 am
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Hey friend.
Pujo(Dussera) was in the air which every Bengali looks forward to..
Throughout the year and the wait starts all over again on the Bijoya Dashami Day..
Wait endlessly for one more whole of a year..
You had come all the way from the Americas.. the favoured nation of the gods..
Where honey flows from every tap and riches overflow every home And sex oozes from every gal at the first burst of adolescence..
Where guys don't ask for sex ..and gals don't shy away ....
As it happens only in India in your own sweet words...
I still feel the warmth of your breaths around me ...
the deft fingers running through my cascade of hair flying irregularly in the Kolkata sky..your intent inhaling of the smell of the shampoo in my freshly done head of hair..
the cold whispers of that wonderfully warm October..
then all of a sudden you started fiddling around the fly in that li'l shadowy darkness in the garden bench and started feeling my zip which predictably I resisted with all my might and walked away in a huff..
I am a gawky shy li'l gal(in your words) who is a dumbo and who should go to the monastery managed by the Missionaries of Charity(Of Mother Teressa fame)where I fit in like a missing piece of a jigsaw puzzle..
But did you ever imagine..
Here is a soul solely dedicated to your misty eyes..
to your pessimistic soliloquies..
to your unintelligible pronunciations about your so called
unattainable dreams ..
About your pipe dream of starting out on an endless voyage on the rising tides of the Hooghly on a catamaran..where only the two of us be the passengers.. clasping each other ..gasping in each others tight hugs and dying in each others arms..
Let the world see another love lost couple loving to die and dying to love..
I was right all through that for the males the female shape is the ultimate attraction and the female sex is the ultimate enjoyment ..
But as long as the night lasts..one night stands are always the best..
But I am made a bit differently.. and my beliefs are etched on the stony surface of my life ..that life is not sex alone and let love flow like a river in our celestial bed.. only after we are pronounced a legal couple..
Is it asking for too much.....!!!???
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Attending a marriage....the most difficult task in my Life.
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Aug 30, 2010 12:15 am
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Recently there was an invitation to attend the marriage of a distant cousin who has just settled in her job in a software company and has no outstanding issues in her life requiring immediate attention. She is well educated, beautiful, well mannered and naturally a very good candidate for a marital life and quite expectedly there were a lot of interests in her from a lot of prospective grooms from far and wide without having to advertise her candidacy in any of the broking sites offering their services for a happy married life forever. The cousin had her share of a boy friend and her quota of fun/fiesta and feverish love as is expected of any normal girl/boy in our times but has amicably said a good bye to the guy after her days in the engineering college were over. Such love normally makes both the partners experienced for their future life and make them worldly wise.
When we reached the marriage hall decked up like a bride in a bejewlled manner the place was humming with activities and was bursting at the seams with a colourful crowd occupying every available space in the spacious hotel and the accompanying sprawling garden which was also exquisitely decorated befitting a queen in full flow. And why not, the cousin's father, my uncle is in a top position in the governmental set up and knows all the who's whos of the state.And these things count these days although I personally hate this sort of pompousness.
The marriage was solemnised strictly in accordance with the schedule drawn up in consultation with the astrologer and not a minute of deviation was allowed to cast a shadow of gloom on the auspicious occasion and to sully the marital life of the newly weds.Its another phenomenon I really hate coming from very highly educated people who themselves are totally illiterate about these things but are afraid to take a more scientific view of the matter.
What bothered me the most was the direct and indirect innuendos surrounding me and many even asking my mom why they were not seriously searching for the right groom for me as it was the right time for a girl like me to be married off ultimately freeing my parents of the liability of some Himalayan proportions as in their opinion an unmarred daughter is like an explosive factory waiting to explode at the slightest click of a finger on a remote control device located even miles away ! Some auntie even suggested that by the age of 22(my age) she had already been the proud mother of Palak(the eldest daughter) and Sagar(the eldest son). She even offered the hand of her son Sagar doing some business in an upmarket cloth market and earning some obscene amount of money,so what if he was not highly educated;it all boils down to money and he had a lot of the green bucks in his Bank!
I was seething with anger thinking about the narrowness of their thought process and about the tendency about offering advices never solicited by any of the affected parties, my parents, any of my direct relatives or by me. I was thinking about the impending admissions in to my M.Arch classes one day making me a celebrated Architect carving a name for myself and my family!!
Thank you all of my well wishers.. marriage is really hundreds of light-years away from my thoughts and millions of miles away from my dreams!
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